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How your thinking increases your anxiety

unhelpful thinking

Cognitive behavioural therapy helps you to notice the content of your thoughts and understand the links between your thoughts, the feelings they produce and what you do about those thoughts and feelings. For example – you might have an automatic negative thought about your appearance. A negative thought about your appearance might lead to a feeling of shame and you …

anxiety

3 Things you do that make your anxiety worse

Anxiety is on the rise. Covid certainly hasn’t helped, but the fact that life is uncertain leaves many of us trying to stay safe in an unpredictable world. There are, however, things that we do that help us and things that make anxiety worse. Knowing what increases anxiety is useful because anxiety is unwelcome. Unfortunately, you’ll never be able to …

peace of mind

Thoughts can be dismissed for peace of mind

Peace of mind: ********  Change your thoughts and you change your world. Norman Vincent Peale ******** Peace of mind comes from learning to separate yourself from your thoughts. Psychologists call this cognitive defusion and it is an effective way to reduce anxiety. How cognitive behavioral therapy works The basic premise of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is that our thoughts create the way …

thinking

7 ways you will get it wrong today

You probably don’t even realise when you get it wrong. Your patterns of thinking are so habitual that your brain is often in automatic mode. Your brain has had a lot of practice in processing information and cognitive shortcuts are common as a way for our brain to cope with excessive amounts of information. When I chat to clients (as …

social anxiety

Top tips for managing social anxiety

Managing social anxiety involves doing the opposite of your normal behaviour. Many people with social anxiety avoid social gatherings. Avoidance is the worst way that you can manage social anxiety. The more you avoid, the more the fearful thoughts rule and never get tested out in reality. Use ‘approach’ behaviour for managing social anxiety We often overestimate the threat and …

thoughts and reality

How your thoughts distort reality

There are many instances where an individual’s thoughts represent an inaccurate view of reality. In fact, I have seen many clients who have thought one thing about a situation and when we have reviewed the evidence, we have both seen how the client’s thoughts have not been a correct reflection of reality. It’s a sad state of affairs when you …

overthinking

How to stop overthinking everything

If you’re anything like me, and many others for that matter, you tend to overthink. It’s amazing just how much time we spend ‘up in our heads’ rather than living our lives mindfully. Have you ever driven to work and then wondered how you got there? if that’s the case – it’s because you were lost in your thoughts. It’s …

cognitive behavioural techniques

Cognitive Behavioural Techniques

I’ve been a Cognitive behavioural therapist for so long now that I sometimes forget that many people don’t know that much about Cognitive Behavioural Techniques. Cognitive Behavioural therapy doesn’t work all the time but in many instances it helps change lives for the better. Cognitive behavioural techniques can’t make stress and anxiey disappear completely but it can help you to …

survival tips life

Emotional survival tips for life

We can all use survival tips for life. I have found that there are times when life feels completely overwhelming. All hope is lost and everything seems bleak. I guess it’s just a part of life but it still sucks…BIG time. Whenever I go through tough times I try to use all my experience and mental health knowledge to try …

How we create our own stress

We create our own stress more than we realise. Life is inherently stressful, there is nothing we can do about the external events, in that we can’t stop them. Debt, poverty, cruelty…there is a lot of injustice in the world and acceptance of this can help us deal with stress rather than resist and exhaust ourselves. However, apart from the …