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Your Self-Talk Could Lead to Depression

New book on self-talk and depression The new book by Debra Atlas offers useful insight into how your inner dialogue with yourself can create depression. When you continually talk to yourself in a negative way or criticise yourself, you inadvertently activate your body’s alarm system. It tells your body to be aware for ‘threat’. This threat isn’t physical, it’s emotional. …

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Thoughts can be dismissed for peace of mind

Peace of mind: ********  Change your thoughts and you change your world. Norman Vincent Peale ******** Peace of mind comes from learning to separate yourself from your thoughts. Psychologists call this cognitive defusion and it is an effective way to reduce anxiety. How cognitive behavioral therapy works The basic premise of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is that our thoughts create the way …

Life Habits podcast

Podcast on what to do with negative thoughts

Negative thoughts can limit you immensely in life. If you allow your negative thinking to overwhelm you, you will not live your best life. When negative thoughts rule, individuals tend to avoid the things/experiences that they fear. Someone who has helped others for many years to overcome their negative thinking and live a happier life is Karel Vredenburg. I met …

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Don’t Be Taken In

Open-minded and tolerant Sometimes, we want to believe in someone so badly that we make ourselves believe what they are telling us. Even though our instincts are telling us otherwise, we ignore our inner wisdom in favour of the promise of love and happiness. All too often I meet clients who say ” Now, looking back..I can’t believe I was …

Caroline Flack

Thoughts on suicide

Suicide usually occurs as a culmination of many things coming together. It is rarely due to one single issue. I decided to write about my thoughts on suicide following the sad news that Caroline Flack took her own life yesterday. It’s clear that she was going through a lot and was under pressure due to an upcoming court case. She …

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Are you a negativity magnet?

Have you ever considered whether you are a negativity magnet? Do you only focus on what isn’t going well? Seeing life through a negative mental filter is a major error that many people make. This happens when we overlook all the good things that are happening and get sucked into a victim mentality of “poor me, it’s not fair”. It’s …

4 Brilliant tips for tackling any problem

  We all have problems to deal with in life. From a broken washing machine and the bank deducting money incorrectly to arguments with a loved one, bereavement and ill health. Most problems have many similarities and there is a formula that you can use to tackle many of life problems. This post is about how to approach problems and …

How thoughts grow

  How thoughts grow What we think about, dwell on or focus on will grow in our minds. A minor irritation can turn into a huge source of stress if we think about it enough. When a thought appears, we can either dismiss it or we can focus on it and make it grow. If you disregard the thought, it’s …

Dealing with intrusive thoughts

  Dealing with intrusive thoughts We all have ‘noise’ going on in our minds. Odd thoughts pop into our minds that surprise us but usually we never act on them. Many of my clients don’t realise that intrusive thoughts happen to all of us. The trick is to realise that thoughts will always keep coming. Learning to filter your thoughts …

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How to manage negative thoughts

Photo by martinak15   How to manage negative thoughts We have somewhere between 40 000 and 60 000 thoughts every day so it pays to be selective about the thoughts you decide to focus on.  In general, I have found that most of my clients tend to worry more when they have spare time. Rumination is the tendency to over …