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The face of trauma as an adult

trauma as an adult

Experiencing trauma as an adult has many similarities when comparing how adults behave after experiencing childhood trauma. This post identifies the typical patterns that emerge from childhood trauma. The experience is related to trauma lived by a female, however many adult males are affected by trauma during their adult lives as well. What is trauma? Trauma is a powerful and …

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Why I’ve stopped trying so hard

I’ve stopped trying so hard when it comes to… Dating When I was dating I thought that maybe if I tried harder I would find someone to love me. Maybe the house I lived in wasn’t smart enough, big enough or in the right area. I wondered if I had a newer car that might give me the edge and …

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I am not good enough

Do you feel “good enough”? This sentence “I am not good enough” is one that many of us tell ourselves on occasion. Sometimes we don’t even realise that we feel this way about ourselves..but consider the following: Do you change who you are for the benefit of others? If you change yourself it would suggest that basically you believe that …

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When you don’t feel good enough

It’s no big surprise that low self esteem and low confidence is increasing. When you don’t feel good enough, it can threaten opportunities and leave you feeling you can’t do anything right. Perfectionism and body images go hand in hand and we are bombarded with images of ‘perfect’ women daily. No wonder we don’t feel we measure up! A study …

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Your own worst enemy

    Your own worst enemy Being self critical definitely makes you your own worst enemy. Finding fault with ourselves and self loathing defies all logic. We are given the raw materials to work with when we are born and although we can improve ourselves to a point, there is no escaping our biology. Despite this fact, we all seem …

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How to overcome insecurities in a relationship

  How to overcome insecurities in a relationship Feeling insecure often has to do with low self esteem and a negative inner dialogue. Part of dealing with insecurities in a relationship consists of working on yourself – identify yur strengths and know what you are worth. Tell yourself that whomever has your love is a very lucky person. See yourself …

Filling the void

  Filling the void   Sometimes life feels so empty, like something is missing but I’m not quite sure what. As if I am missing out on a big secret that everyone else knows about and I don’t. Of course, this isn’t really the case because when I have deep and meaningful conversations with friends they often tell me they …

I’m not good enough

I’m not good enough “I’m not good enough” is a statement that I hear many clients say. Perhaps they don’t come out with it immediately but after a few therapy sessions of searching and exploring, clients often find that many of their problems boil down to a basic belief about themselves: that they somehow don’t measure up. There are many …