Mandy Kloppers – Psychologist (CBT) – Global Online Therapy
I hear it all the time, “I’ll be happy when…” or “When I retire I will do all the things I want to”. It’s very shortsighted and denies you happiness in the present moment. Each to their own but I think this attitude lacks wisdom and an ability to appreciate what you have right now. I never take the future …
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? It’s almost the end of January and it’s time to get back to being disciplined. If you are like me, the word “disciplined” immediately conjures up resistance. A feeling of dread and being uncomfortable emerges. Focusing on where we want to be, includes accepting that we will need to give …
It is not hard to spot a fickle-minded person. They are the ones that continually change their minds. A fickle minded person never commits and they like to keep their options open. Their decision making skills are lacking and they can be infuriating to those around them. If you want an answer or a commitment, he fickle minded person will …
There are four types of motivation: These are defined as being either from an external or internal source as well as being an action or non-action. The four resulting forms of motivation are extrinsic (external source, action), identified (external source, non-action), intrinsic (internal source, action), and introjected (internal source, non-action). Extrinsic Motivation Extrinsic motivation is an external influence that impels …
7 Reasons why people procrastinate Procrastination means putting something that we know we need to do. Most of us procrastinate to some extent. We have all said “I’ll do it later” or “I must get around to doing that”. But some people habitually procrastinate to such an extent that tasks build up their lives become very stressful. Procrastination …
Making decisions leads to a fair amount of stress. To make good decisions we need to accept that there will always be some uncertainty. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that the decision we make will be 100-percent successful. The greater the consequence of our decision, the more stress we will feel. I have found that many clients I see, tend …
How do we overcome mental inertia? People by nature are fearful of loss, whether that is financial, emotional or related to status or power. We are obsessed with accumulating safety, security and certainty. What we often ignore though is the fact that life is inherently uncertain. There are no guarantees or real security no matter how hard we try …
Procrastination is often confused with laziness. What is procrastination? Procrastination is… …not completing a task or goal you’ve committed to for no valid reason, and instead, doing something of lesser importance. Postponing the important task takes place despite there being negative consequences to not following through on the original task or goal. Everyone procrastinates. However, procrastination becomes problematic by how …
by Tariq Gardezi Acute stress is one of the key determinants of decision making. In fact, studies suggest that external stressors can influence individuals to make decisions without considering all possible outcomes. However, while that may be the case for some people, others may find anxiety within the object of having to make a decision itself. This kind of situation, …
There is often a correlation between perfectionism and low self esteem. Perfectionists base their self worth upon their level of achievement. If they aren’t successul and achieving, they feel worthless. How sad is that? They find the concept of seeing themselves as worthy just be existing completely alien. So they continually strive to achieve. There is nothing wrong with ambition …