Mental health, emotional wellbeing & personal development
I don’t know about you, but my life has the tendency to go up and down. There are good days and bad days. At times, the bad days seem to linger for a lot longer than they are welcome. The longer the bad days stick…
How to cope with stress Modern day stress is our constant companion. Rather than resisting it, it makes more sense to find productive ways to reduce our stress levels and lead a life that is calmer. Here are clever ways to cope better with stress:…
Acceptance and distress tolerance Life’s not fair. I can think of many things that seem unjust. I just have to watch the news or listen to people’s stories to confirm this. If you’ve ever found yourself saying “Why me?” or “It’s not fair”, you may…
No one else can fix you except yourself. The best counsellor or therapist in the world won’t be able to fix you without your collaboration and cooperation. As a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, I sometimes get clients who expect me to ‘fix’ them. They have this…
We all need a little mental refortification from time to time. Recurring issues, even the smallest of ones, can cause us great stress over time. The sudden yet extreme random situation that pops up can put so much stress on our minds and bodies, we…
Most of us underestimate our ability to cope. Time and time again, I have witnessed clients tell me that they would never be able to cope but when they actually had to get on with it, they found the strength from somewhere. This is why…
Nothing can prepare you for the grips of the black dog. Almost overnight, it can feel like a part of you has been taken away. Hobbies become chores and happiness seems to be a thing of the past. It is a confusing and stressful time,…
It takes constant work to maintain self belief let alone increase your self belief. We live in a world that is well set up to erode our confidence on a daily basis. Rejection, failure, constant comparisons to others, the media showing the lucky few who…
Ways to be stronger when life throws you challenges There are many advantages to fostering resilience. Resilience helps people face and manage positive and negative life events. Resilient people persist in the face of obstacles and, when necessary, accept circumstances that cannot be changed. Resilience provides a…
Not all difficulties are negative even if they seem so on the surface. When we are faced with difficulties, compensatory learning takes place. This is learning that involves skills to help us cope with adversity. Skills that we would not learn if we hadn’t been…
4 Tips for raising happy, emotionally healthy children It can be tough raising happy, emotionally healthy children in a world that is so full of emotionally unhealthy people. Children spend at least twelve years in an educational system that is sadly, ill-prepared for teaching…
Things resilient people don’t do They don’t do everything themselves – they know how to delegate. They don’t spend inordinate amounts of time researching before making a decision. Example: reading a lot of documentation on a topic; asking for the same information from…