BABCP Qualified Therapist/counsellor in Guildford, Surrey.UK
Most of us underestimate our ability to cope. Time and time again, I have witnessed clients tell me that they would never be able to cope but when they actually had to get on with it, they found the strength from somewhere. This is why …
Nothing can prepare you for the grips of the black dog. Almost overnight, it can feel like a part of you has been taken away. Hobbies become chores and happiness seems to be a thing of the past. It is a confusing and stressful time, …
It takes constant work to maintain self belief let alone increase your self belief. We live in a world that is well set up to erode our confidence on a daily basis. Rejection, failure, constant comparisons to others, the media showing the lucky few who …
Ways to be stronger when life throws you challenges There are many advantages to fostering resilience. Resilience helps people face and manage positive and negative life events. Resilient people persist in the face of obstacles and, when necessary, accept circumstances that cannot be changed. Resilience provides a …
Not all difficulties are negative even if they seem so on the surface. When we are faced with difficulties, compensatory learning takes place. This is learning that involves skills to help us cope with adversity. Skills that we would not learn if we hadn’t been …
4 Tips for raising happy, emotionally healthy children It can be tough raising happy, emotionally healthy children in a world that is so full of emotionally unhealthy people. Children spend at least twelve years in an educational system that is sadly, ill-prepared for teaching …
Things resilient people don’t do They don’t do everything themselves – they know how to delegate. They don’t spend inordinate amounts of time researching before making a decision. Example: reading a lot of documentation on a topic; asking for the same information from …
Protect your self belief No negative self talk Remember no one is perfect Don’t put others on a pedestal, no one is better than you Your opinions and ideas count – express them Be assertive, not passive or aggressive. Being assertive means honouring yourself …
Tips for mental wellness There are things that you can do to improve your general levels of contentment and mental wellness. It may take some practice but it is worth it in the end. The more we learn to manage how we process …
The secret to resilience Self-doubt is an ever lurking presence for many of us. It’s easy to see why we all doubt ourselves in question our motives and at times even our own value and worth as a human being. I have found it …