Mandy Kloppers – Psychologist (CBT) – Global Online Therapy
Characteristics of Extraordinary People Really extraordinary people often use cognitive distortions to help them in their quest to achieve excellence. Generally, cognitive distortions are seen as a negative thing. They distort reality and can lead us to psychological harm. Cognitive distortions are simply ways that our mind convinces us of something that isn’t really true. They can however be …
You can progress in life..consider this: There definitely are ways to gain an edge over the competition. Do it for yourself though instead of attempting to be better than someone else. Focus on yourself and not others and your goals will be clearer and more in line with your values. Here’s how to get ahead: Accept that you are equal …
1) Your upbringing will influence you for the rest of your life Your emotional memories of a parent you adored or feared, create pathways in the limbic part of the brain. Every time you revisit those memories, positive or negative, you reinforce the path, deepening a trench of emotional connection. Throughout life, your unconscious mind embraces any new person …
Your Positive Expectancy Plan: It’s a new year and I want you to make a decision today to live with “positive expectancy”. Commit to focusing on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Life doesn’t have to be “the way it is”. Challenge this thinking. If you are willing to make the commitment to taking the necessary steps …
After many years working as a mental health professional, one of the best lessons I have learned is to reality check my thoughts. Assumptions can lead us into all sorts of inaccurate thinking and remove us from the reality of the situation. Behind every emotion is a thought. If I ask you to feel angry, you first need to think …
Schema Theory: What is a schema? It is a cognitive filter that we all possess. We perceive reality through our ‘filter’ which is influenced by past experiences and our attitudes and beliefs. These filters or schemas influence attention and the absorption of new knowledge: people are more likely to notice things that fit into their schema, while re-interpreting contradictions …
Do you practise what you preach? There are many hypocrites out there who say one thing and do another. It’s a psychological fact that we use different criteria to judge others than we do for ourselves. Depending on whether we are more optimistic (and possibly in denial in some ways) or more pessimistic in nature, we tend to have a …