Mandy Kloppers – Psychologist (CBT) – Global Online Therapy
If humans were unable to make assumptions, the world would be a much simpler place. I am continually amazed at how people (myself included) make assumptions that are not based on facts. Rather they are based on our own thought processes, existing beliefs, insecurities and emotional temperament. When we are feeling low/depressed we tend to make assumptions that are negative. …
A lot of current events might be having a toll on your mood these days: a global pandemic, reoccurring lockdowns, time away from your loved ones, an array of contextual events, you name it. The abundance of sullen causations makes it hard to pinpoint the actual root of your gloomy mood. But if you’re experiencing recurrent mood swings during the …
Breakups suck, pure and simple. That gut wrenching sick feeling…the world can feel like it’s at an end and you may wonder if you will ever mend. If you want to get over a breakup fast, you’re in the right place. How to get over a breakup fast Like yourself/feel good about yourself This can be hard to do …
Are you bored and disillusioned? It seems a growing trend. Swathes of people who feel bored and disillusioned in life. I meet them every day and I am not immune to feeling this way at times. Life can have a tinge of monotony to it, a bit like Groundhog Day. This is especially true since Covid emerged and …
Decision making When you are engaged in healthy functioning, your decisions tend to be based on reasonable and realistic variables. If you are depressed or anxious, it is highly likely that your thought processes are unhealthy and possibly even dysfunctional. At times when I have felt depressed, I have avoided making long-term decisions that would have a substantial impact on …
Evolutionary Psychologists say that our default mode is to be on the lookout for danger. As cave men running around many years ago, we had to be tuned in to threat around us. Being complacent could lead to death very easily. These days, modern threats still activate the same parts of the brain (the amygdala and the hypothalamus) and produce …
Are you climbing the ‘mountain of should’? How many “shoulds” do you have in your life? “Musts” and “shoulds” create anxiety and place unnecessary strains and stresses on us. Replace “should” with “could” and always challenge your “musts and shoulds”. Why must you? Why should you? Where’s the “rule book” stating this? Learn to dismiss these pressurising words in your …
Feeling Empty Too often I meet clients who say, “I have the house, the gorgeous spouse, the children, a great job and car I want, yet I still feel empty”. More often than not, this is down to living a life that is not in line with your values. It begins at an early age as we begin to …
In 2020 people are far more aware of the need to keep fit and healthy, and this is a good thing. Self-care and well-being have taken centre stage in the past few years, and it is great to have a positive approach to your life. Now, so many people remember to focus on getting their bodies fit and healthy, but …
When you feel depressed it feels like nothing is going right. I’ve experienced depression in the past and I know the warning signs. Self-criticism increases and my thinking takes on a negative hue. Withdrawing from others and hunker down for the ‘storm’ ahead is another one of my usual reactions. I’ve had thoughts that the world is against me – …