Mandy Kloppers ------Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist-------Therapy in Guildford, Surrey.UK
Decision making When you are engaged in healthy functioning, your decisions tend to be based on reasonable and realistic variables. If you are depressed or anxious, it is highly likely that your thought processes are unhealthy and possibly even dysfunctional. At times when I have …
Evolutionary Psychologists say that our default mode is to be on the lookout for danger. As cave men running around many years ago, we had to be tuned in to threat around us. Being complacent could lead to death very easily. These days, modern threats …
Are you climbing the ‘mountain of should’? How many “shoulds” do you have in your life? “Musts” and “shoulds” create anxiety and place unnecessary strains and stresses on us. Replace “should” with “could” and always challenge your “musts and shoulds”. Why must you? Why should …
Feeling Empty Too often I meet clients who say, “I have the house, the gorgeous spouse, the children, a great job and car I want, yet I still feel empty”. More often than not, this is down to living a life that is not …
In 2020 people are far more aware of the need to keep fit and healthy, and this is a good thing. Self-care and well-being have taken centre stage in the past few years, and it is great to have a positive approach to your life. …
When you feel depressed it feels like nothing is going right. I’ve experienced depression in the past and I know the warning signs. Self-criticism increases and my thinking takes on a negative hue. Withdrawing from others and hunker down for the ‘storm’ ahead is another …
7 tips for coping with modern day stress Stress is unavoidable in today’s world. There are bills to pay, debt, traffic jams. difficult people, relationship issues – the list is infinite. Finding ways to cope with modern day stress will put you ahead …
Has life turned out as you expected? Life hasn’t turned out as I expected. I thought I would be happily married with a 4×4 in the double garage and a house full of people and dogs. My reality is completely different, although I am not …
Sliding towards a mental breakdown can occur quite gradually and subtly. A mental breakdown usually occurs after an accummulation of mental stress and rarely occurs out of the blue. As a rule, many of us try for a long time to cope alone and some …
The loneliness of depression is partly what exacerbates the isolation of being depressed. Unfortunately, no one really wants to be around a depressed person. We all want to be around upbeat, happy people. Many of my clients tell me how lonely and isolated they feel …