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Simple ways to move forward in your life

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Do you ever feel stuck? Like a rat in maze hitting your head on the same damn wall? If you ever feel like this, join the club! it’s really common to feel stagnant in life, as if you are in limbo. The good news is that there are simple ways to move forward in your life. Focus on what’s good …

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Compare and despair

One of the leading causes of unhappiness in the world is due to the fact that we all compare and despair. Cognitive Behavioural Therapists refer to this as a thinking error. Often we are making a faulty comparison as we are comparing what we know about ourselves (warts and all) with the vision that others present us with. We don’t …

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Unhelpful coping strategies

Have you ever thought about whether you have unhelpful coping strategies? The evidence shows that we all have some type of unhelpful coping strategy. we use coping strategies to help us feel less threatened by people and the world around us. So what exactly are coping strategies? Types of common unhelpful coping strategies Denial This is a very common coping …

Why you must practise flexible thinking

There is a theory that the more flexible you are in the way you think about the world, the happier you will be. This makes sense because if something or someone lets you down, if you can tell yourself it’s not that bad and find other ways to think about it – for example, I never wanted that car anyhow, …

How to manage those random thoughts for peace of mind

Are you a passive receiver of all your crazy thoughts? Did you know that 90% of the thoughts that come into your head are just ‘noise’ – random nonsense? They aren’t useful, helpful or productive. So, do you want to be someone who passively receives all these crazy thoughts and whose life is affected negatively by taking notice of them? …

How is that working for you?

I attended a CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) workshop led by Steve Hollon at Surrey University a while ago. He was inspirational and one of his catch phrases that he uses with clients is “how is that working for you?” I love this sentence as it helps clients focus on behaviour that generally isn’t working for them. When they break it …

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The power of thought

The power of thought Photo by withbeautiful Few people realise just how powerful their thinking is. The thoughts you choose to focus on and the beliefs you choose to hold on to as true for you, can create heaven or hell. The power of thought is closely looked at by cognitive behavioural therapists (CBT). It is widely accepted that thoughts …

Dealing with intrusive thoughts

  Dealing with intrusive thoughts We all have ‘noise’ going on in our minds. Odd thoughts pop into our minds that surprise us but usually we never act on them. Many of my clients don’t realise that intrusive thoughts happen to all of us. The trick is to realise that thoughts will always keep coming. Learning to filter your thoughts …

Overcoming anxious predictions

  Overcoming anxious predictions We all do it – we imagine something unfolding badly and get ourselves into a state before it has even happened. When it does happen, it’s rarely ever as bad as we expect it to be. So why do we do this? Why do we indulge in “what if” thinking and mentally torture ourselves unnecessarily? We …