Mandy Kloppers – Psychologist (CBT) -Counseling in Guildford, Surrey.UK.
Stress is never a welcome addition to our lives, but it’s a necessary evil of life that we must learn how to deal with constructively. Here are six toxic habits you need to quit during stressful times. Hanging out with unsupportive people The company you keep plays a significant role in your mental health. If you find that you are …
Everyone without exception experiences this. That experience is self doubt. I have dealt with clients from all walks of life and I have yet to meet someone who can say that they have never experienced self doubt. We all experience uncertainty throughout life and often, we are facing situations for the first time. In fact, I would be more concerned …
There are ways to cope with stress and learning to cope with stress is essential as it is an unavoidable part of life. How to cope with stress involves acceptance. This is key. Resisting stress and fighting it will make you more anxious and stressed out. Instead try to change the way you think about stress. See stress as a …
Hey, I know life can be shit at times. I’ve been there and I know what it feels like. It’s as if everyone and everything is against you. If there is a God, he is up there having a laugh. That’s what I imagine when life gets on top of me. The trick is to always remind yourself that the …
Photo by Giorgio Montersino Making worry work for you Worry is a persistent and uncontrollable chain of thinking that mainly focuses on the uncertainty of some future negative or threatening outcome. During this thinking process a person rehearses various problem-solving solutions but fails to reduce the heightened sense of uncertainty about the possible threat. A certain amount of worry is …
The main causes of anxiety Avoidance As long as you avoid your fears, they will continue to exist as they go left unchallenged. There is no reality testing going on and the threat remains. When you avoid situations that cause you anxiety, you will be prone to worrying about whether you can handle it. To reduce anxiety, it’s important to …
The cycle of anxiety We all worry about things that threaten us but often we overestimate the threat and fear it more than we need to. When we feel the fear, we assume we won’t be able to cope with the threat. Many times we are wrong and this is what we need to focus on when we feel …
How to challenge worry Worrying is a waste of time- it expends mental energy but doesn’t solve anything. Solution focused worry is the best type of worry but most worry is made up of random ‘nonsense’ thoughts that destroy the current moment by sucking the happiness out. So we spend our lives worrying about things that might never happen …
Do you have Generalised Anxiety Disorder? (GAD) Therapists are trained to spot people with Generalised Anxiety Disorder and one of the easiest ways to detect GAD is to look at whether a person worries about a particular situation or whether they tend to worry about a variety of situations. If their pattern of worry persists no matter what is …
Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD for short) is a common anxiety disorder where a person worries excessively in most situations. Their fear or anxiety is not limited to one specfic situation but is generalized to many different types of situations. GAD often involves a sense of dread and/or doom and “what if” thinking. Often, people who have …