- April 4th marks International Tell A Lie Day
- We lie to ourselves up to 200 times a day
- Survey reveals common daily lies we tell ourselves
- Celebrities & famous people from Princess Diana to Amy Winehouse got caught in the trap of lying to themselves
- World-renowned therapist Marisa Peer’s new book reveals how telling ourselves more constructive lies can boost well-being and transform our lives
April 4th marks International ‘Tell A Lie Day’ but did you know, according to world-renowned therapist and relationship expert Marisa Peer, we lie to ourselves up to 200 times a day. Whilst many of these might seem harmless, this constant negative chatter feeds our insecurities and ultimately leads to being unhappy and dissatisfied.
Marisa Peer classifies a lie as anything which has very little relationship to the truth – I just can’t do this, for example, or I am the greediest person on the planet. Whilst we may think these are ‘truths’, most of what we tell ourselves is based on past experience and thought patterns that were often developed in childhood.
If you were told you were no good at sport or struggled with your weight as a child, these mini-traumas will have lodged in your mind and continue to negatively impact your adult life. By constantly repeating this storyline in your head you are affirming this belief. Why we lie has a lot to do with our core beliefs.
What are our favorite lies?
Wherever you are in the world, it seems people share the same negative thoughts. The Rapid Transformational Therapy Training School asked 500 people on their global team to note down the self-lies they told over the course of the day. The findings all broke down into one of the following three areas:
Physical
I look old
I look fat
I am ugly
Relationships
I am a bad mother
I’m not a good friend
I am a rubbish partner
Achievement
I’ll never be a success
I’m so disorganized
I can never focus
In her latest book, “Tell Yourself a Better Lie”, Marisa Peer reveals how to reframe these negative beliefs and tell ourselves more constructive lies that can boost wellbeing and transform our lives.
Illustrated through ten unique stories from her client sessions, the book demonstrates how her groundbreaking Rapid Transformational Therapy technique (RTT) helped to turn their lives around by getting to the root cause of the issues holding them back, reprogramming their minds with more constructive stories. This helped them to let go of problems such as suicidal depression, eating disorders, weight loss, and life-limiting phobias and addictions.
Commenting on her book, Marisa Peer said:
‘The saddest lie we tell ourselves is “I am not loveable” or “not loveable enough”. Telling ourselves we are not smart enough or good enough or interesting enough is simply not true. Look at the list of talented and famous people who were all caught up in this spiral of self-deceit – from Judy Garland and Marilyn Monroe to Michael Jackson, Princess Diana and If you find yourself telling these lies, practice-changing it to I am loveable, I am enough, I matter or I am significant. Do this often enough and I promise your world will change.’
