The one sure-fire way to meet dates, guaranteed
Description: We detail the one tried-and-true method to guaranteed to land you a perfect date.
Meeting other singles and landing dates is less about finding the perfect place at the perfect time and more about the tried and true cliché: Put. Yourself. Out. There. And we mean that. Set an intention and practice, practice, practice. It will become easier with time, and if you want something, go and get it. In any way, shape or form, make yourself known. What, besides your pride, do you have to lose? Once it is out of the way, a new, confident and authentic you can emerge, and that you knows how to get yourself a date.
Don’t consider yourself to be a social creature? Strip off your fear and be bold.
Break that mold. Go somewhere that’s introvert-friendly, like a coffee shop, with a good book. Get hopped up on caffeine and sit in the cozy chair next to the cute girl reading on the couch. Ask her about the book she’s leafing through. Ask about her her views on the universe. Her favorite music. Be interesting and intelligent. Don’t worry if it doesn’t go anywhere. Consider it your homework. Consider it your networking: meeting people in order to meet other people, and in the process, meeting that lady of your dreams. Being friendly isn’t difficult once you get past that whole big fear of rejection thing.
Go to a bar. Get in enough coffee-shop practice under your belt, so you don’t have to get sloppy drunk before you strike up a conversation because believe me, that won’t work in your favor. Sit next to somebody who looks nice. Is it a lonely old man, and you are a straight guy in your 20s? No matter. Talk about music. Talk about travel. Talk about your grandiose plans for your life. Ask them about theirs. And maybe the cute girl sitting next to that old guy will catch wind and join in your jovial chatter. Maybe tonight will be your night.
Or skip the legal uppers and downers and think of the coolest, most interesting thing you’ve always wanted to learn about but never had the balls. Glass-blowing? Woodworking? Metalsmithing? Foraging for mushrooms? There’s a class for that. You may have to travel forty miles to the closest city to do it, but it will be worth it. Because if it’s the coolest most interesting thing to you, then chances are, you will vibe hard with somebody else in the class who also thinks it’s the coolest most interesting thing. And even if you don’t meet anybody, the next time you settle down next to a girl in a coffee shop, you will get to tell her about that impressive, crazy-cool passion of yours that you’ve recently honed.
Get on the internet. Sign up for a dating site like quickflirt.com. Set up a date with a hottie. And on that date, you will have a wealth of rad experience to draw from. You will be at ease with yourself, great at conversation, and be able to tell her about the insane war stories from the old man sitting next to you at the bar, pimp your interesting skill, and talk about the value of quality coffee. And all that experience, willingness to be vulnerable, and practice will have been worth it.
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
