The power of belief
belief
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1.an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof.“his belief in extraterrestrial life
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2.trust, faith, or confidence in (someone or something).“a belief in democratic politics”If you fully understood the power of belief, you would do your best to never believe another negative thought about yourself or your capabilities. Often, what we believe to be true or to be possible for ourselves becomes our reality. If we don’t believe something is possible for us, we tend to dismiss any opportunities that might presents themselves that contradict our limiting belief system.
Self-fulfilling prophecies
For example, if we don’t believe that we are attractive enough, we may ignore any opportunities to go out on a date with someone we perceive to be ‘out of our league’. We tell ourselves statements in line with our limited beliefs. We aren’t good enough, we would be rejected or we would just look foolish. The result is that the belief grows stronger because we don’t test out whether what we believe is reasonable and realistic. Of course, there are a few other factors that influence outcomes such as fearful thinking and so on, but our beliefs form the foundation of what can be possible for us in this life. This is the power of belief.Research has shown repeatedly that our beliefs affect everything from our financial status to our health. Did you know that if you see stress as a positive experience (see it as your body being ready to take on a challenge rather than something that is toxic for your body), you a less likely to be affected by the negative effects of stress? (Watch the TED talk by Kelly McGonigal on “How to make stress your friend”).Here is another example of the power of belief: There was a story of a man wrongly diagnosed with cancer. He ended up dying and when they performed an autopsy, the coroner found that he had no cancer at all. In fact he had been wrongly diagnosed and never ever had cancer but because he believed he had cancer, he died early. This story is anecdotal but it does not surprise me in the least.Beliefs set the stage for what you feel you can accomplish and thanks to the psychological phenomenon of “confirmation bias”, we tend to only notice those things that are in line with our beliefs.Do your best to believe the best about yourself. Tell yourself how amazing you are. This is not be confused with thinking you are better than others.I regularly ask my clients to name 10 things they really like about themselves. Most clients tend to struggle with this exercise. Some manage to come up with 2 or 3 ideas but then start to squirm in their chair and look uncomfortable. They usually mutter something about how it’s not right to be arrogant. Self-love and acceptance are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT to arrogance. If you aren’t your number one fan, who will be?So, believe that good things are possible for you. See yourself in the best possible light with regular positive self talk. Sure we all mess up and make mistakes but instead of saying “I’m such an idiot and I never get it right”…how about something more along these lines…”I am human and make mistakes like everyone else”.It’s time to take a long hard look at what you believe. Beliefs can be adapted and adjusted. The unconscious mind accepts your beliefs as true. There is no ‘internal truth judge’ double guessing and verifying the beliefs you feed yourself. Think of your beliefs as a mental diet. Positive beliefs are like the vegetables and fruit and negative beliefs are like the typical unhealthy calorific junk food.I know which mental diet I’m choosing…Mandy X - Photo by Ran Berkovich on Unsplash