There is nothing to prove
Have you ever come across someone who isn’t particularly beautiful or handsome, or someone who is overweight, yet they seem completely at ease with themselves? They seem to be happy in their own skin and don’t look for the approval of others? They look as if they have arrived at a place where they accept and like themselves…this is where peace of mind and contentment begins.
I have spoken to many journalists and people working in the media who have told me that the most famous celebrities are often the nicest, most accommodating people – far more than the B list stars who are still trying to make a name for themselves. When there is a feeling of nothing to prove, you start to relax. There is no pressure to get others to like you. Believe it or not, this is completely possible without having to become an A List celebrity. When you have nothing to prove to others, you immediately put yourself on the path to fulfilling your true potential. You dilute all the wishes and influence of others and find your purpose in life quicker.
Ask yourself why you need the approval of others. What does that achieve? As long as you can get up every morning and like who you see in the mirror, you’re on the right track. For me, liking myself means being tolerant, non judgemental, not engaging in gossip or being two-faced and not doing harm to others.
When you feel that familiar pressure to please others, to show others your worth, always stop and check why you are doing it. Most likely it is due to a lack of self esteem that can only be fixed by YOU. Learn to get to know yourself, figure out your values and boundaries and live by them. When you like and accept yourself you will have nothing to prove.