Where Does The Time Go?

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 Where Does The Time Go?

I don’t know about you but the days seem to fly by. At the end of the week I feel exhausted but there are often times when I am not exactly sure what I have achieved. It often feels as if there hasn’t been a spare moment yet I don’t feel as if I have progressed much. Almost everyone I talk to, including friends and clients, tell me how they are all exhausted and lacking in sleep. They feel anxious, exhausted and feel they are still struggling through the never-ending “to do” list. Sound familiar?

I  often feel as if I am just keeping my head above water, trying to get work done, stay in touch with friends and keep my son fed and the house clean. Our minds are swamped with information and our bodies are tired. Where is this all heading? Sometimes I think we need to stop and figure out why we are scurrying so much, juggling work and socialising, hair colour appointments ( my roots are looking neglected as I write this) and squeezing some semblance of joy in there somewhere..hopefully?

It’s time to take a step back, stop hiding behind the notion of being busy and do a proper analysis of what needs chucking out. As the 80-20 rule states – I am probably spending 80% of my time doing things that only lead to 20% contentment. Being busy has almost become a modern day illness with people finding it uncomfortable to have a blank to-do list. Why do we resist this?

Ways to own your life and your time again:

  • Stop the obsessive list making. If it’s that important you probably won’t forget it. If you do forget it, you will most likely realise that it wasn’t such a matter of life and death as you imagined. In this way you break the cycle, one step at a time.
  • Take a nap or three. Sleeping regenerates your cells..think of it as a beauty treatment.
  • Allow yourself time to do nothing…or sit and watch a movie without sitting on the laptop at the same time. I often do this as I then feel I am enjoying myself as well as being productive..NOT. It is a false economy – a bad habit that needs to be broken.
  • Do one thing at a time.
  • Constantly ask yourself “what’s the rush? What’s the urgency?”
  • Watch your addiction to being online. This can make you feel busy but in actual fact you aren’t engaging in real life – like hugging someone, going for a walk, seeing a friend face to face…it’s artificial living but it creeps in taking over more of our time. I know I am guilty of this!
  • Learn to say “No”.
  • Ensure strict boundaries between work and personal/leisure time. If you work from home you need to be even more vigilant.

Being aware of the “busy disease” is the first step to counteracting it. Watch where your time goes. We live in a time-poor age but it is important to know that there is extreme wisdom and health patiently waiting in quietude.

Mandy X

Photo by h.koppdelaney