Mental health, emotional wellbeing & personal development

What defines a narcissist?

What defines a narcissist?

Narcissism is on the increase. Sometimes it’s purely bad behaviour but at other times it’s a personality disorder depending on the number and severity of traits. Narcissists act superior and entitled but underneath it all, they feel constantly unstable and empty. Narcissism is a personality pattern, a way of relating to the world. People who possess narcissistic traits are desperate for the world to keep validating them.

 

Common characteristics of narcissism:

Tendency to manipulate and exploit people

Entitlement

Grandiosity (seeing oneself as superior to others)

Superficiality

Hypersensitivity

Needing admiration and praise

Lack of empathy

Rage

 

In relationships

The way you will be treated:

utter disregard

coldness

no empathy

question your reality

lying

unfaithful

inconsistent

The relationship is kept alive simultaneously by hope and fear.

Hope that the narcissist will change, that it will get better

Fear that if they leave the narcissist they will be alone forever

 

We get sucked into the narcissist’s world by their charm, charisma and confidence. All very appealing initially but as the relationship progresses, their bad behaviour becomes normalised.

Watch this brilliant Ted Talk on Narcissism by Dr Ramani Durvasula

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