What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?
Past events and our upbringings shape the way we think. As we progress through life we begin to make assumptions about ourselves and others – some of these thoughts will be helpful and others will be unhelpful. In the same way, some assumptions/thoughts will be accurate and some will be inaccurate. The longer we have thought in a certain way, the harder it is to shift and change. We end up over time having core beliefs about ourselves and the world, also referred to as “rules for living”.
Rules for living often take the form of “if this…then that”. For example: If I go out and socialise I will end up making a fool of myself. Or…if I get into another relationship I will get hurt or – If I don’t please others I will be disliked and rejected. Core beliefs are often in the form of:
“I am not good enough”; “I am a failure” and so on.
So, our past experiences create our beliefs and assumptions about the world which appear as “if this ..then that” thoughts or “must and should” statements.
Becoming more aware of your “must and should” statements is one key way to begin uncovering your rules for living. We can’t change the past but we CAN update our beliefs about the worldand ourselves as many of the core beliefs we hold are often outdated and incorrect.
We learn false beliefs from other, especially our parents and we internalise these thought. If your parents were critical, we begin to see ourselves in the same way (eg. I am stupid, fat, ugly, etc) and we act in accordance with these thoughts by withdrawing, avoiding or finding ways to hide our assumed failings and inadequacies.
Cognitive behavioural therapy is a brilliant way to identify inaccurate thoughts and start to replace them with healthier, more helpful thoughts. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy also involves setting up behavioural experiments to test out our faulty assumptions to show us how they aren’t true.
If you find yourself repeating negative patterns of behaviour, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) might work for you. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is available in many areas and most CBT therapists offer skype sessions too – so it can be offered from anywhere in the world.
I offer Cognitive Behavioural Therapy online and if I cannot help you I can refer to another CBT therapist who can.