Tying the knot should be a time of celebration where you’re able to share intimate parts of your heart in the presence of your loved ones. Often times the logistical strides required can turn your dream day into your worst nightmare.
That’s why we’ve put together a few tips on how to overcome some of the major challenges that come with planning a wedding.
Time can be your friend
Planning an event of this magnitude is scary and time consuming. The last thing you want is to have puffy eyes and a tired looking face from all the sheer exhaustion of planning your big day.
Give yourself enough time to plan your wedding properly. It helps to start with the broader and bigger decisions like the wedding venue and food selection and break these down into smaller steps that you can easily track your progress with.
Take it one step at a time, and don’t be shy to ask for help. Whatever you do, don’t try to do everything yourself. Delegation is key.
Along with time management you should also take time to budget to make sure that you are well prepared and not indebted.
It’s okay not to be okay
Being honest with yourself will go a long way in helping you to accept that there will be bumps in the road ahead. The more honest you are the more realistic your action plan will be. Your plan should be as detailed as your dream, so go the whole nine yards and pay attention to detail.
Resist the urge to splurge
Weddings are naturally expensive affairs and I’m pretty sure you’re just dying to hear those three magic words. No, not I love you but ‘here’s some money’. Remember that the wedding is about you and your partner not everyone else.
Resist the peer pressure you might get from friends and family and do what’s best for you and your pocket. It is advisable to be transparent about how much you’ve set aside for the wedding to avoid setting unattainable expectations or promises that you can’t keep.
The last thing you want to be worried about on your honey moon is debt that you’ve accumulated from the wedding. It’s also very important to ensure that you and your partner are on the same page about finances.
Nothing ever goes as planned and that’s okay
There is no such thing as perfection when it comes to events as large and major as weddings but the most important thing to remember is to have fun and dwell on the positive aspects not the negative ones. Creating expectations that are too high and unrealistic is only setting yourself up for failure. Truth is, not everyone will leave with a smile on their face and that’s okay. Focus on your own happiness and make sure you and your partner have a great time.
Less stress, more champagne
Try to break away from wedding talk and cultivate your relationship with your partner. Do things that bring you together and lower your stress levels.
Nothing says ‘calm and relaxed’ more than bubbles and a hot bath. Remember that marriage isn’t just meant to bring two families together but it can also solidify your bond as a couple. But, the wedding planning process can take a toll on your relationship so it’s important to keep things transparent and healthy and most importantly do everything with love.
Do you, boo
Avoid prioritizing people’s needs above your own at all costs. It’s your special day so people should be accommodating you. The months leading to your special day can cause emotional distress especially over petty things like family feuds.
Make sure you have someone to speak to who will help calm your emotions and be sure to prioritize self-care on the big day. It can be easy to forget about yourself and even simple things like eating breakfast can slip your mind. But, it’s important to take care of yourself first before you can even consider the needs of others.
Conclusion
Marriage is a big step but a wedding can feel like the tip of an iceberg that topples the Titanic. The best way to avoid the stress and emotional turmoil that comes with it is to surround yourself with a strong support system. This includes your partner, family and friends. Don’t forget to maintain healthy communication with your partner throughout and most importantly, have fun with it!
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
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